You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

So men lace their words with sweetness,

leave their intentions cloaked with sugar.

Your friends will ask,”What’s he like?”

“He’s nice”

and for them, for you, for all of us,

that is enough.

We learn that kindness is a gift,

respect is a seduction.

And you will being to apologize for the things he doesn’t give you.

We begin to view “niceness”

as exceptional,

rather than a prerequisite.

Think that our standards are shrewish demands.

We can never be the woman who asks for too much.

We would far rather be the girl who gave everything away.